Steve:

What I figure from your posts is that you are angry at this woman for a few reasons. Three of these reasons are:

1. She refused to have sex with you while choosing to have sex with another man (“I tried to get physical with her but she refused…she is way far from being innocent!”)

2. She is money oriented (“She pulled out her calculator and said- that I don’t make a six figure income… Very calculative and money oriented”)

3. You believed from the very beginning that she was dishonest with you (“I was under the impression that ‘I’m seeing someone’ line, was used to keep me out of her pants. For a long time, I refused to believe that she actually has someone else. I thought that she is playing hard to get!... As soon as I made a confession- it was game over for me! She stopped chasing and changed it into a waiting game. She has a degree in psychology… it was not an equal fight”

You are angry at her because you want to get, using your words, to get into her pants and she won’t let you. Not only didn’t she let you … into her pants, she let another man into her pants. It is as if you state an injustice: How dare she keep me out of her pants?! How dare she let another man into her pants and keep me out of her pants?

You wrote: “I have a tendency to say hurtful things without thinking”. And you wrote earlier regarding you and this woman your thread is about: “For the first few months, it was more like a back stubbing game. We took turns hurting each other.”

You wrote, “I told her that we can’t be friends because I see her as a woman”- meaning, when you see a woman … as a woman, you see nothing but those pants, and you are focused on nothing else but on getting into those pants?

anita