Dear Jenny Lynn:

A bit of a summary: you and Glenn started dating Nov 30 2016, made it a “committed relationship” Feb 2017, moved in together April 2017 and separated March 31 2018.

Nov 30 2016-March 31 2018. You calculated above, that you spent the past year and two months (Dec/early Jan 2017-March 3018) everyday with him, which makes a total of 3624 hours

If you learn nothing from this relationship then it is wasted time. (And wasted time, by the way, is the norm, not the exception. We people do waste a whole lot of our lives).

Something to learn about anger: Nov 2017, you wrote: “Me and Glen argue a lot… This is so abnormal to me and really bothers me because I DO NOT ARGUE with people… My birthday… he basically didn’t do anything for me. He remembered he just didn’t do anything for me… And then he found himself breaking up with me the next day guys in the middle of an argument… he didn’t budge… after that things were rocky for about 2 weeks and I just broke down and cried… I told him my problems with him. Which was basically his temper. He has a really bad temper… I can’t be my full self with him… He makes me feel bad… He has never even given me flower or honestly any romantic gesture ever. I questioned him about that once. He in so many words said I didn’t deserve things ‘like that’ he admitted the birthday things was to spite me for something I had done earlier that week… He hold a lot of stuff against me….H still acts like I’m a flake who holds guys on the side lines… I have given a year of my life to him…I don’t want to waste anymore time…it’s literally 50/50 half the time we are happy and the other half he’s mad. About &** anything honestly. But its so sporadic I forget almost… Like you were happy for 4 days then mad for 2 then happy for 3 and forget about how ridiculous the past 2 days were dealing with him and his bickering and mood swings… until it happens again…

He comes in with just a stank attitude. Doesn’t want to give me a hug. When he gets mad he won’t hug. Then yesterday just picking and poking at anything to go back and forth about…He does the silent treatment a lot… He gets mad when he doesn’t feel ‘special’. . Changes in plans REALLLLLY annoys him… He gets mad if I don’t text him back in a certain amount of time (unknown time because it literally depends on his mood) Things I literally have no control over… His feelings are facts in a nutshell… he is just really mean. Simple as that; as mean as someone can be without hitting me, calling me out my name, or yelling. He is more manipulative than anything. He does a lot of stuff just to get a reaction out of me or to make me sweat….for lack of a better word ‘punish’ me… I already do walk on egg shells honestly. Border lining pins and needles… something needs to change because I wouldn’t spend the next 30 years of my life the same way this one has went.”

Will you take it from here, Jenny Lynn: what is here to learn, about anger in a relationship, what is there to learn for a better future, for you?

anita