Dear Jenny Lynn:

Last thing before I drop Glen (will return to him when you mention him again, wanting more of my input, if I have any more…), you wrote about him: “He was a mean person who did nice things (sometimes)”-

I can’t imagine there is a single mean person in the world (including the blood chilling mean people) who are not nice sometimes, who do not do nice things sometimes. It is only in cartoons and heavy duty fiction that a character is always mean, consistently so.

Glen was mean because he repeatedly punished you, repeatedly aimed at causing you discomfort and emotional pain and did not correct his ways.

Now to John: it crossed my mind today, wondering for a moment if there is a chance for you to be back with John, be back to a good relationship with him. After all, he is in the title of this very thread.

With what you learned, it may work, him or another man from your past. If you contact either one, having a conversation, checking where he is at and if the two of you have common goals and interests in a future relationship, such a conversation or a series of conversations cannot hurt, as far as I can see.

anita