Dear LifeUnravelled:

It reads to me that you and this man bonded over your respective bad marriages that ended, that you bonded over what was wrong in those marriages, but did not create together what is right in a relationship.

It is always easier to see what is wrong over there (in those marriages) than it is to see what is wrong right here (in the present relationship). At least it was so for him. Am I understanding correctly?

I think that it is very difficult for you to let it go is that you are emotionally attached to this man. Just as you were emotionally attached to your ex husband. When attached, it is difficult to let go, to move away.

The attachment has all those dreams and hopes in it, that euphoric feeling of love, or of possible love. The hope that there is true comfort in the arms of someone, that is an exhilarating, intoxicating feeling, isn’t it?

anita