Dear Chris Joss:

If it is a deal breaker for you, then it is a deal breaker, but what is it exactly that is a deal breaker? Make sure you know exactly what it is that is happening at the sporting events.

Maybe what you feel is happening is not really happening.

The fact that she rides with her ex husband to the sporting events, sits with him and his mother at the events and chats with other parents,  and the fact that her mother was a big part of the breakup of her marriage does not mean she has any feelings toward her ex that are a threat to your relationship with her.

I suppose you met her son? Her ex husband, her mother?

anita