Dear Katie:

You are considering short term pain vs long term gain. You are already feeling the pain, have felt it for a few years during your marriage, and anticipating more pain if separated, followed by a hoped for gain.

In this consideration of the future, think of the past, before your marriage and before you met the man who became your husband- were you lonely then, a lot (outside temporary comfort here and there)?

Did you experience a lonely, loveless childhood, in your home of origin?

I am asking these questions because it is your early experience with love, or lack of, that is likely to return if you do separate from your husband. Let me know, if you would like to, that is.

anita