Dear Ying:

You were clear and direct with M, she was and is unclear and indirect with you, something that when in conflict or in an unclear situation, is very frustrating for the one who is being clear and direct.

Because this situation has been going on a few years, I would say, determine in your mind that your acquaintance and association with M will soon come to an end. This will not last forever.

No solution is possible through communicating with her (it takes two). Because there is no solution, there is no  point to thinking about a solution. It is like having a thorn in your foot that you cannot take out, for now. You have an appointment to take it out in a week. For the week, you have to live with it.

What do you do? Focus best you can on other things. The thorn will bother you again and again, tell yourself: this is unpleasant but it won’t kill me. It will pass, oh, how nice it will be in a week when I am free from this unpleasantness.

anita