Dear Mika:

Reads to me that the relationship is indeed over. Best you can do is learn all you can from this past experience. Learn what you did that you can do better next time.

It takes two to make a relationship work. Figure out what about a potential girlfriend is okay for you to accept and what is not. Then do not proceed in the future with a woman who is not a good choice for you, where a healthy relationship is not possible.

If a heathy relationship with a particular woman is possible, see to it that you are attentive to your behavior, that the communication is effective, that is, that you are heard and she is heard, and take it from there.

anita