Dear Cheska:

You are welcome. You wrote about you and your mother: “I am a bit hard headed and we don’t get along”, suggesting (so it reads to me) that the two of you don’t get along because you are hard headed.

Then you wrote: “As years go by, I matured. My mother and I have good relationship now”, suggesting (again, it reads to me this way) that the your immaturity was the reason the relationship wasn’t good before.

I believe that a child cannot be guilty of a bad relationship with one’s mother. You wrote that there were physical fights between the two of you. I don’t think it is possible that the (understandable and natural) immaturity of a child can be the reason for such fights with a mother.

Would you like to elaborate on those physical fights, on any one of them, how they came about?

This may be an unpleasant thing to remember and tell, here or anywhere, but it may be helpful to look into it.

anita