Dear Lynda:

You are welcome. Notice, I recommended that you behave in such ways that you appear calm, mostly to your son. Your son needs the appearance of calm. What you experience, as unpleasant as it may be at any time, that is your experience to have. Appear calm to him and as you succeed in doing so, your inner experience will be calmer.

I hope you do experience more and more calm and that you don’t beat yourself up for your current living circumstances. I am thinking at the moment about a particular neighbor, a woman who has the best living circumstances imaginable, a beautiful three story home that she owns, more money coming in every month than she can use, a guaranteed income for the rest of her life and yet she is and appears more anxious than anyone I have seen in a long, long time. And her children suffer from it a whole lot. One has died, another has no contact at all with her, and a third doesn’t seem to be well.

If she was calm with her children in way less favorable living circumstances, it would have done her children wonders.

anita