Dear Rose:

It doesn’t read to me that the problem was “a lot of pressure at the time”-

I think the problem is that your ex boyfriend had greats suspicions about you lying to him, not being trustworthy. His suspicions and mistrust in you don’t have anything to do with who you are but with what he was told and shown when he was a child.

When his father told him something negative about you he believed him. He didn’t base his belief on any evidence, did he. He based his belief on his core belief, that is what he believed since childhood, that women are not trustworthy.

Maybe it is his father who instilled that belief long ago. There is nothing you can do to change a core belief in him because it is already recorded and set in his brain.

I figure he withdrew from the marriage plan because he figured you are not worthy of marriage, only for sex, not being trustworthy of more than a sexual relationship.

What do you think?

anita