Dear Simona:

I figure if he is to have a good relationship with a woman, the woman has to give him the sense of freedom and at the same time guide him.

For example, he told you that “he wants a relationship, but he needs to figure out what type of relationship”. Here is an answer that may work well with him:

Lets figure it out together starting now. Let’s be honest with each other every day, and find out, over time what kind of a relationship will work for the two of us, so that we are both satisfied.

And then, the two of you have daily conversations, maybe a conversation per day, or every other day or once a week: what worked, what didn’t work, what to try differently.

anita