Dear IpkR09:

You wrote earlier, before we started the communication about his relationship with his mother: “he told me … he wanted to focus on providing her (his mother, that is) a good life but he said that when we met, he just fell for me”

What I read in it then and still do is that he felt that his choice is between his mother and you, that he has to focus on her but when he met you he unintentionally fell in love for you.

It reads to me that his mother possessed him, demanded that he will be hers. As if he is her property, her belonging.

No one likes to be possessed. We are all born… to be free.

And so, she has damaged him and led him to a life of suffering. He feels responsible for a woman he is very angry at. He feels like he has to be devoted to a woman he hates.

Not a good life for him. Not a good life for a woman involved with him.

anita