Dear C.:

It may help to move so that you don’t have to see the two of them getting together, or see him at all.

I don’t believe in fate, that is, in a god of sorts that decides that two people will be together, so I don’t believe “it was meant to be”, not your relationship with him, nor his current relationship.

Your relationship with him didn’t work out. His current relationship may work out and maybe it will not. All you can do is to make a good choice next, in a man, best you can, and then do your part in increasing the chances that your next relationship will work out.

Since October your ex boyfriend has been consistent in his refusal to resume a relationship with you or even be in contact. It is his choice and he has the right to make it. Better you respect his choice.

If there is a slight chance of you and him getting back together, later, if there is a chance, then you disrespecting him now by pursuing him further, will hurt that chance.

You asked: “how can I stop feeling so guilty and stupid”- by making wiser choices today and every day best you can. We are all stupid in some ways, but it is not fate, to be stupid, we can learn and get wiser, choose wiser.

anita