Dear deestrout:

What you described in your recent post is enough to make a child, then and through life, uncomfortable with sex. There is no need for more than that to explain the discomfort and nervousness about sex.

Also, when a woman feels like an object with a man, it doesn’t mean she was molested as a child. It can very well be that as a child she wasn’t valued, wasn’t treated as a person with her thoughts and feelings being considered and respected, and then, as a woman, that same experience expands to the sexual.

Reads to me that as a child you were not attended to positively, and then, there was the negative sexual input by your father and about his addiction that added to the experience of a child unattended.

Something about Jason was and is different. Something about him makes you feel comfortable, something about him feels trustworthy. It might be his energy that you mentioned, “He was different from everyone else and had an insane amount of energy. I was immediately very attracted to him.”  You mentioned his “childish and temperamental ways”.

Maybe as a child you were subdued. Maybe you pushed down your feelings so to survive the household. When you met Jason he reminded you of those pushed-down feelings in you, feelings that needed and need to be brought up again and allowed to be. Can it be?

anita