Dear Simona:

A long time ago, when you were not much into him, he wrote you a long email, “he claimed that he wanted to be loved entirely.. to feel entirely wanted, to give and to receive etc.”..telling me to take time for myself to think about what I really wanted”-

sounded like a man interested in a serious, monogamous, loving and mature relationship, giving you (the immature one) time to think and meet him at his level of maturity.

Most recently, “he said that now he is feeling like ‘loco loco’ and not searching for a relationship”. That “loco loco” is his current level of maturity, different from what he presented before.

This is one example that shows why it is important to evaluate a person’s motivation and values not based entirely on what they say at any particular one time, or over a short period of time, but over a longer time, based on what they say and what they do during the course of a longer period of time.

anita