Hi L,

I feel your pain…I found out my ex has been living with a girl since he moved out 3 mos. ago and he had been seeing her several months before that.  We he left he told me several cruel reason & blamed me for all.  I really didn’t understand but I took the blame until I found out the truth.  I was hurt when he moved out, but now it’s even worse with all of the betrayal and lies he told he had told me.  I don’t understand how he can be so cruel & he has never owned up to the situation.  He will not call or text…We have spoken once in the past month for less that 10 min & he acted so glad to see me & said if I needed anything to call.

I have not called or texted him because I know it will start the healing process all over for me.  I have panic attacks whenever he crosses my mind.  I am trying very hard because I know we could never be together.  But yet, I feel I deserve answers, but would only get lies from him.

I am sure you are feeling the same pain, and feelings I am.  Each time you talk to him, or text you are going t get upset and probably won’t get any answers from him.  It sounds like the needle that broke the camels back was when he found out you had a visit with your ex.  The main thing is you saw him because you wanted to & did.  Maybe you should talk with your ex & help you to get over the feelings with the current boyfriend.  If he wants you back, or wants to talk to you he will call, or text.  It does sound like he has a lot of relationship issues with past relationships.

Do you really want to be in that type of a relationship with a man? (always walking on eggshells) I am feeling the same thing whether it is from them cheating, lying or just their past relationship issues.  Ask yourself do you rally want that~

Bella~