Dear Mary:

“Work I calling!”- meaning you are employed?

You wrote: “I could not bare to be alone, if someone showed me affection, no matter how toxic, I was in love”- it is amazing how much of a social animals we humans are, inherently, born that way, can’t choose otherwise. We truly do need people, and the first person we desperately need is a parent, the one holding us when we are babies.

When a baby is being held, it finds comfort in it, in those powerful hands holding it. Otherwise, the baby will fall, being helpless that way. If the hands are thorny and prick the baby’s skin, it will take the discomfort of course, because it is better than falling and dying.

As adults we have some say about what hands are holding us. We don’t have to settle for thorny hands that hurt us.

anita