Dear Amy:

The way that night happened is that you went out with friends (“my friends took me out and then what happened happened”)- why did your friends let you leave, drunk, with a man; if you all went to a bar together, why didn’t all individuals in the group of friends see that each friend returns home safely?

How could they let you leave with a stranger (?) when drunk?

I would like to offer something helpful to you about moving on, which is what you stated that you want, but I suppose I need more information (question above). You also wrote that you know he is not “the one”, and that he is badmouthing you.

If you could have the situation resolved best possible, how would such resolution look like: will you be back in a relationship with him, will you no longer be in a relationship with him but he will no longer be badmouthing you, will you still have the friends who (?) left you alone, drunk, with a strange man?

anita