Dear Amy:

The two of you knew each other for 5 weeks and within those five weeks were officially boyfriend-girlfriend for one week. Within that first week there was that one big fight. As you wrote, it was “way too quick”, for a big fight and the drunken night to happen, all in the first week of a committed relationship.

Your last sentence of your recent post is “I don’t even know where to start”

My suggestions as to where to start:

1. Talk to the friends you went with to the bar and ask them individually, why they left you drunk with a man in the bar, especially with one who is “notorious for treating girls awfully and sleeping around”. Maybe they are not friends and your interactions with them should be re-evaluated.

2. You wrote that you work long hours and are always stressed. Something needs to be done about your work situation, reducing the hours you work, changing something about the nature of your work, or changing a job altogether.

5. You wrote in your original post: “I’ve never thought I deserve happiness”-

Will you share with me why the child that you were believed that she doesn’t deserve happiness?

anita