Dear Azalia:

Did I understand correctly, that you are no longer in that online business you were in and no longer in contact with the man who was also involved in it (and with you, sexually)?

If so, I suggest you tell your boyfriend only what you are afraid that he will find out himself, only what is possible for him to find out. Tell him those things with a few short sentences, just the facts and a bit about how you feel about it now.

If the behaviors you regret are in your past, he doesn’t have a right to know about those behaviors, they are not his business, really, unless those behaviors can affect his life.

You wrote, “I just feel sometimes that maybe breaking up would be better so that I stop feeling like this and he finds someone as perfect as him”- if breaking up is the only way for you to stop feeling this guilt, then better break up. But maybe it is not the only way, and if your relationship is healthy otherwise, better not break up.

“as perfect as him”- but he is not perfect, is he: what makes you think that he is perfect?

anita