Thank you for replying Anita and yes I have not been in that business for over a year now and cut off contact with that man.  I have told him a month ago what I did but I never mentioned anything about the guy who helped me (not sexually involved at all anymore for years except for the business)  and that is what is killing me sometimes because I feel like I should be completely honest but now it could be too late to say that because he seems to be healing from my confession very well and telling him would just make everything worse maybe.  Last night I mentioned to him that I feel like I don’t deserve him but he told me to not feel that way because he knows it was a mistake and he doesn’t even think about it anymore. That helped a bit but then he said he was glad my conscience was completely clear now and I just said yes even though it’s not true because of that one detail but I hope it goes away if I ignore it.

I guess you are right on the fact that he doesn’t need to know everything but I don’t Know how to get rid of this guilt, my mom says time will help but if you have any advice on this please let me know and thank you again .