Dear joanna:

I wrote to you earlier that he has issues, and he does. The two of you have significant issues. One of his issues is going from the reasonable I-had-a great-time-let’s-do-this-again to you-and-I-forever, all before a second date.

One issue you brought into this very short relationship is dishonesty. Specifically, you had sex with him even though you didn’t like him much (“I don’t even know if I like him that much”, you wrote after the first date). If a man’s only motivation is to have sex with you, then not a loss for him. But if a man is very infatuated with you, wanting to be yours, etc., then having sex with him is likely to give him the false impression that you like him and encourage his hope for that you-and-I-forevermore.

During that first date you “felt so insecure”. You worried, during the date, that he was bored with you and so you ended it earlier than later. And yet, he told you that you look “so joyful and smiling all the time”. You faked that joy, didn’t you?

anita