Dear joanna:

There is a saying: “Truth is stranger than fiction”.  This man we are talking about, he wasn’t infatuated with you on that first meeting or date, suggesting when he met you accompany him to pick up some things he left at the gym and letting you know he will be watching football with his friends later on in the evening, without you. But then, before the second date he tells you that he wants to be yours forever, that you and him will go on vacations together and on and on.

What happened? As unreasonable or as strange as he may be, there still is a big missing piece that you didn’t share about. I was looking for that piece in the details of how long the meeting lasted and why was it drinks but only coffee (I understand drinks and coffee is the same in your first language). But the missing piece is still missing: were there meeting in between the first and the second, communications of great length otherwise, I don’t know.

And then, your mother persuaded you a long time ago to use your money (left to you by your father) so to renovate her boyfriend’s home. two weeks ago, you told her that you want that money back, and her response, “she started yelling and crying”. And her boyfriend will not give that money back. And yet, he is still her boyfriend and no rush on your part  to move out, somehow, somewhere.. anywhere away from her. Never has been a rush, during the long months I communicated with you on your first thread- never an expressed desire that I could detect, to move away from her.

There are other things that puzzle me, that don’t add up for me. But I have no doubts that most of what you shared with me is true, best you know. Probably the great majority of things. But seems to me that sometimes you make great omissions, things that you subtract from the truth, (if not commissions as well).

In other words, I don’t trust that you are telling me the truth as you know it. I lost that trust I had in you and in your story. And so, the ground I stand on when communicating with you is shaky, not one I can or should proceed to walk on.

anita