Dear miranam:

“If I could eradicate this need I would be perfectly happy”- can you define “this need” as specifically as you can?

“This marriage was my life project and I will put a final signature on its failure”- If it is a failure, it is a failure regardless of your awareness (signature) of its failure lagging behind.

Regarding your “son and his heart, his teen years”- what will he lose if you separated from your husband and what will he gain, is the question. I think the answer requires some time and contemplation.

anita