Dear Kkasxo:

I sure hope you heal from this understandable heartache, this devastation and that you will feel better soon.

I am well aware how powerful the early relationship with a parent is in a person’s life. A person is literally being formed in those formative years of childhood. Many thousands of neuropathways are formed in the  brain as a result of the child ongoing interactions  with the parent, most often the mother. These pathways  get reactivated every day of his life as an adult.

You wrote: “I feel betrayed and deceived”. Interesting, isn’t it, that it is his loyalty to his mother that brought about his betrayal  of you.

You wrote: “I no longer believe in relationships. I cannot possibly ever trust another soul like that”- if I was single, in the dating world, first thing I’d do when getting to know a man, is learn about his relationship with his mother as a child and onward. That would give me valuable information about whether it is wise to trust him.

What do you think?

* I will be away from the computer for the next 17 hours or so. If you reply, I will read and reply again when I am back.

anita