Dear Jenny Lynn:

What a pleasure it is to read from you, almost two months since last time.

John told you that “he doesn’t feel that ‘want’ for (you)” – that’s a closed door considering there never seems to have been that want for you, that is, wanting you to be in a committed relationship with him. There is that word yet, “he doesn’t feel that ‘want’ yet”- well, he wasn’t that honest having added that “yet” because using the word he gives you something that is nothing. He gives you a reason to hope when in reality there is no basis to that hope.

Glen, he was not a good choice for you regardless of the fact that you didn’t feel closure in prior relationships. If you did have closure, if the doors to other relationships were indeed closed, then you would still be stuck with a bad choice.

Strange, isn’t it, the title of your thread may still be relevant, only you are in a relationship with John (however uncommitted and infrequent) but “still in love” (just a bit) with your ex, Glen, this time.

I say: no, not John (reads like a nice guy but he has been consistently not wanting you the way you need to be wanted),  not Glen (too disturbed to be able to have a healthy relationship, I think), and not Hunt or any ex. Someone new, someone you didn’t meet yet.

How is your living and work situation?

anita