Dear mamaof2kids:

Anxiety is the toughest thing to deal with, it rains on the parade of life, so to speak,  like nothing else, spoiling our good times, causing us so much unnecessary distress and then, it brings us absolutely nothing positive. Anything and everything we fear- is more likely to happen because we are anxious. We are less attentive when anxious, more impulsive, and therefore more likely to make mistakes.

But we have to do all we can to deal, manage, decrease the anxiety and engage in the slow, oh so very slow process of healing from  it. At this point in my experience, I don’t think I will live long enough to no longer experience anxiety, if that is at all possible for a person to go from years of anxiety to none.

I don’t even know if there is a person in the world who does not suffer from anxiety. There may be none, and so, it may be the human experience, to be anxious.

But work on it, we must, because we can make our lives better, and when you are a mother of two kids, yes, better do all you can do to decrease your anxiety and engage in that healing process.

One thing to do as part of this process is to pay attention. This paying attention is referred to as Mindfulness by many. Let’s look at the incident you shared about in this thread. If you didn’t tell him you had herpes, you wouldn’t be worrying about it following. So before sharing information, pause and think: will I be worrying about it later, regretting that I shared this? Then proceed according to your answer.

We can communicate more and more about anxiety if you want. If you do, keep posting and I will reply.

anita