Dear Maddy:

I agree, it is a good idea to “stop contacting and stop thinking about her”. Regarding the contact, because she no longer initiates contact with you and responds only if you initiate contact with her, keep not initiating. This is the easy part, compared to the aim of not thinking about her anymore.

I am trying to understand your liking of the sentence, “Adultery is the revenge of the deserted possibilities from our past”-

will you tell me about the deserted possibilities of your past?

anita