Thank you for responding. It feels good to know that this is somewhat normal. Its been a week now. A part of me keeps holding on to hope and the other part is giving up and I keep going back and forth. I know I must give him time to work out whatever is going on. But it just hurts that I was the first thing he shut out. I dont want a relationship where I’m shut out. He told me often I was part of the family… I dont feel like it at all right now. Im trying to not take it personally and realize that whats going on in his life is monumental to him, his whole world is changing. I made a list of the top ankle doctors in america and how to contact them, for a second opinion. I dont know if I should give it to him or how… mail it? I’m afraid hes going to push me away again, for good.