Your post made me so unbelievably happy – thank you! Such a huge relief to just be heard. You’ve helped me realize that I’m sick to the back teeth of supporting my brother  through his bad choices and you’ve helped me reframe the wedding situation. I think I have to go but it’s to support my husband and two kids who are part of the wedding party and looking forward to it. I want them to have a good time and so I’m going to make them happy and so when I think of it that way, I feel more at peace with myself.