Your example is helpful and I will try to use this as a guide for next time if there is one.

Yes I am afraid or retaliation as I dont want to suffer at work where I end up excluded, ignored and basically full of fear. This has been my experience all my life as far as I can remember. I avoid saying the truth because it makes me different and when I have had the courage to speak the truth in work and with my family, I am always made to feel wrong and ashamed. If I were to have said yes to the womens request for needing me to drive her home, I would have felt depressed and silently angry for going against my own needs and of course extending the time I would be spending with her. This co worker I have already described is actually far easier than the coworker I met today who I will be working with every day. This is a type of women who would try and get you in trouble if you annoyed her in the slightest. I know I can handle this type of person but it means not being who I really am.

Anita- I started this as a new thread as I dont want to take the focus away from what we have already shared regarding my daughter and family and I will still continue to add more to that thread when I feel the need if its ok with you.