Dear Jay:

You have evidence that they communicate but not that they are a couple, or a monogamous couple. I don’t know you have evidence that your ex boyfriend left you for this man. Maybe he did, maybe partly. I don’t know.

The key sentence in your original post is: “For the past 4 weeks that I’ve had to work with him and this company, I’ve been doing my hardest to act  like its okay… but its really not. I’m not okay”.

What if you approach your co worker and ask him. He may be stunned by a direct question, so maybe give him some time after asking him if he is your ex’s boyfriend. Tell him no aggression will follow your question or his answer, that you want to know because you are not okay not knowing.

What do you think?

anita