Dear Vicente:

You are welcome. Yes, reads like you have made much progress, an intentional made progress over some time. And yet, it takes more time and more patient work to make changes in well established ways of thinking/feeling and operating.

You wrote: “I felt a bit down when I saw that guy and that she has moved on, but is it that bad?”- no, it is not bad at all, it is neither good or bad, I say. “Is it that bad that sometimes I think about her and miss the good times? We were together for almost ten years..”- not it is not bad. But if you live your whole life not being open to a new relationship, but instead, be stuck in comparing a potential new relationship to.. something that wasn’t that great, well, you will be stuck with something that wasn’t that great, missing something that can be much greater.

“maybe I just need to be a little more gentle to myself”- I agree, absolutely. Keep your spiritual quest going, keep your awareness going, be gentle with yourself, notice your inclination to be number one, even in this very spiritual quest.

anita