Dear Annie:

A second chance in life is available for you away from him.

The “good memories .. with him”, those give you a good feeling but life with him is not good for you. There are almost always good memories in bad situations. Let’s say a person is starving day after day for a week, then on the seventh day he gets to eat a piece of bread, that is a good memory!

Do you then live this kind of life: starving for six days so to enjoy a piece of bread (even a cake!) on the seventh day, then starve again and so on and on and on?

You wrote about talking to him: “talking to a wall. I used to tell him all my troubles and he will say its in your mind or you don’t know how lucky you are..”- this is a kind of starving, starving to be heard, to be treated like a person who matters, a person who has value.

anita