Dear Gigi:

Your co worker/ friend, it is not surprising that he withdrew from you some, he is married and is not considering separation, so he is conflicted, not sure what to do. This is not the circumstances that are congruent with starting and maintaining a new friendship/ relationship.

You wrote, “this thing is way too complex for many people to understand”. It would be possible for me to understand, rather than come up with this or that possibility if you explained the situation clearly.

Reads like you gave up on your husband and marriage, that you are done with trying to communicate with him, that you are open for a relationship with a new man, at least emotionally, you are. But then you wrote that you are not interested in separation and divorce. So I don’t understand what you are trying to do. If you are not interested in divorce, how do you see your marriage proceeding? How are you going to make it possible for you to survive in it with some peace of mind?

anita