Dear Lily:

When he said “I want to have a baby with you”, I think he meant something like: I want to have sex with you! That is all.

Don’t underestimate a young man’s sexual need, this need drives a lot of what a young man says when feeling that need. So when trying to figure out what a man meant saying this or that, think: was he feeling sexual when he said what he said. If the answer is yes, then the interpretation of what he said is simple.

I think it is a good thing that you brought up the STD issue, absolutely. The reason he may be interested in unprotected sex is simply because it feels better for him. Of course you don’t want to pay that high price for him feeling better by getting infected and/ or infecting another.

Better yet, have no sex with him at all. The conditions are not right for that to take place. The communication is not that great, there is no meeting of the minds yet, too much guessing on your part, and he is about to move away.

You are not here on this earth to satisfy men’s sexual needs. You are here to love-and-be-loved, to understand and be understood, to respect and be respected. Without what I italicized here, sex is not a good idea, I believe.

anita