Dear Sueshell:

Uncomfortable with his life, not liking it the way it is, he made some adjustments, adjustments that require lies and pretenses and cover ups and he got good at those things. I am thinking he doesn’t like being married, so he pretends that he is not and living partly as married and partly as not. It is called compartmentalizing, I believe, that is living a double life and feeling comfortable enough living that double life. Or a triple or quadruple life.

For most people it is too distressing to do so on an ongoing basis. At least, I hope it is too distressing for most people.

To “fully trust- and love- again”, it is about getting to really know a man and to trust him according to his trustworthiness. It is also about a woman trusting herself to find out, to understand correctly and to be able to choose wisely.

I hope you post again.

anita