Dear Yohanes:

I hope you have what it takes to stay away from her, to not approach her anywhere, at the bus stop, at her work place, nowhere at all. I hope you can and that you will be able to convince the police of your intent to not attempt to contact her. I suppose there will be a record now with the police, and if you try to contact her again, you may end up in jail.

Number one priority is then that you stop contacting her.

You didn’t mention a behavior that explains to me the extent of her expressed fear of you, maybe it was the things you said to her when you were drunk, things you don’t remember saying. Which brings me to second priority behavior on your part- stop getting drunk, stop drinking so much that you forget what you say or do. If it takes no longer drinking at all, stop drinking altogether.

I hope you focus on recovering your mind, your heart and your life from the devastations you recently experienced at work and in your relationship with now your ex- girlfriend.

Do post again anytime you’d like. I want to read what happens with the police looking for you.

anita