Dear Airene:

I wonder if you are stuck in this ongoing, long lasting, non violent fight (no yelling, hitting, no blood and broken bones kind of fight), invested in it, investing in winning, eventually. You considered leaving him, not so to exit the fight, but to deliver a punch, to “send a strong message to him”. In other words you considered leaving him as part of the fight.

Did you watch the movie The War of the Roses? That was a violent, eventually a blood and broken bones kind of a fight, but the woman there too was invested in the fight. She wanted to win too.

anita