Dear Littlemisssunshine05:

What an insightful post! “Funny thing is, this time, I know it’s not about my looks, but my personality”- amazing. Even though you cared about him, you wrote, “I acted like I didn’t care… I just didn’t want him to see how bad I wanted him. He just swathe attitude problem though”-

yes, he didn’t know your history, what you were thinking, how your history affects your perception of him and the situation, all he could see was your behavior and it wasn’t pleasant. This is why having honest conversations early on is very important, the other person cannot read your mind, neither should he try (it is impossible, really). Better tell him. This is the honest way to go about things. And he respected you when you did just that. And you got to see him in a different way as well.

If you would like to share about your “own demons”, your past hurt and anger that got activated in regard to this man, please do.

anita