Heya Sparkle,

I know this is painful for you, and you want support from us – you’ve been here on and off for a long time.

If you always do the same things, you will always feel the same way. Tension and unease is a companion to emotional growth. Stepping outside your comfort zone is a pre-requisite to growth.

Sure- you don’t *have* to answer Anita’s questions, or listen to her advice. Nobody is making you do that.
And yet you come back and have not moved very far on this matter, years later.

What is the value for you in coming here for our support-  if you are not prepared to challenge yourself and sit with difficult questions?

Do you want us to tell us your worst fears are correct and you should leave your partner?

It looks to me as if he cares for you, but you struggle with anxiety and have not accepted this fact.