Dear Alisa:

I don’t think those sparks or butterfly feelings are so important. They are definitely temporary in every relationship that starts with those feelings. After all, even his sparks for you will be gone soon enough!

What matters is that you value him and that he values you, that the two of you treat each other empathetically and respectfully. It is important to not be repulsed in any way by your partner, at least not regularly (every once in a while it happens, bad breath and such), but butterflies?

Butterflies die quickly, it is in their nature to not last long.

anita