Dear Lucy:

I think it is time to  end this relationship.  Apologize one final time and move away from him for good. Clearly keeping it going is hurting you, but it is also hurting him. So do what  is right for the two  of you.

His feeling that you are a wh(*& and a sl*&&, these may have pre-existed you in his life, meaning  something he felt before about women.

Nonetheless, this feeling is now cemented in his mind regarding you. What sense would it make for you to live your life as these things in your (future) husband’s mind? Every time the  thought  and feeling  occurs to him, there you are, those  things:   a wh(*& and a Sl*&&.

If this relationship had a chance of working, that would be perhaps if the two of you attend quality couple counseling for at least six months of biweekly sessions, I am thinking, in which his mistakes as well as yours will come  to light, and I don’t know if he willing  to confront those..?

anita