Dear crazy:

It is not a good way to live, being held hostage by fear, not a good way to live… to marry a woman you don’t love and worse,  have children with a woman who may turn against her own  (and your) children when she gets depressed again… threatening suicide in front of her children, oh how destructive that would be to those young children.

Better for you (and for the children I hope you don’t want to have with her) that you do break up with her. I hope that the progress she made,  with your help, being currently employed is one such progress, will help her endure the breakup and continue her progress.

Plan how to break up with her, gently,  assertively, plan how to respond if she makes threats, again, as a result  of the breakup, then follow your plan.  You can plan it right here  and  I will give you my input on your plan.

anita