Dear Amelie:

Reads to me that  the  things he  did for the other young women in his life were easy things,  writing  poetry, buying lingerie. Easy. What he needs  to do now with you is difficult, laundry, getting a driver’s  license  (if I understood correctly), finding a job… not fun, like poetry or commenting on an ex’s photo on social media.

I don’t think it is about him “Just not that into (you)” as  it is about him being used to taking it easy. It will be for his benefit if he goes the route that feels more difficult for him, but I guess he doesn’t know it yet. It will  be to his benefit to find a job, to do the laundry, to be a good partner to his girlfriend… but he doesn’t know it yet, and he may not know it.

Any indications that he is unhappy the way things are and find employment and  so forth?

anita