Anita, Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your wise words! I needed to hear that.

These sorts of guys take a sympathetic ear they get from females that will listen to their problems, but never reciprocate in turn. And in fact, to add insult to injury, choose to move onto other women instead!

In some ways I also wonder whether that aspect to our connection has turned him off me, as he earlier had mentioned that where we lived as kids held bad memories for him. Even though it wasn’t my fault, he associated me with that bad memory. So, in turn, I reason that me being there listening to all his problems now like a dutiful girlfriend might (even though I am not his girlfriend), may have perhaps made him associate me with all those uncomfortable feelings of pain from his past again? I am only speculating, seeing as I doubt I will ever gain closure from him on this.

I am in total agreement with what you say, that it is better to find a man that values you first as a person, and not solely as a female with body parts he is interested in.

Thank you once again for helping me see the light.