To all those who think demanding “get over it” is helping: either demonstrate the HOW or stop saying that, period. #justsayin’

Your loss is real; the pain you feel is to be expected. There are actual statistics on how long it takes to get over a relationship, so please be kind as you keep your eye on the calendar. Getting through it is the only way to get over it, and it takes time (about 18 months, experts say.) Talking about ‘it’ can help but it reactivate feelings, so please check out “tapping.” Based in Chinese medicine (acupressure points) it works to remove the emotional charge associated with a thought. You can find a “Basic EFT routine” on YouTube. (Emotional Freedom Technique) It seems awkward at first but so what? It works like gravity: whether you believe in it, or not.