Dear NeedMeSomeBuddha:

I understand the attraction about the guy liking the way  you look at a time when you are frustrated about having gained a few pounds, I do understand how wonderful it felt. I also  understand that you are attracted to him and had such a great time talking with him for hours, having so much in common. And I understand you having been  lonely for awhile (I know how that feels!) and therefore how wonderful it felt to have such intense communication.

But  Monday morning he didn’t tell you that  he will be working  Wednesday and therefore he couldn’t get together  with you Tuesday,  this is a biggie,  so  is him hanging up  on you repeatedly!

I think that you had hope, intense, sweet hope for a relationship with  him and  it hurt to have  that  hope shattered, so you examine everything you did and said finding mistakes  (there always are), then wanting to believe that  if you fixed those mistakes, if only you let him know that you know what you did wrong..  maybe he  will give you another chance and you will have that relationship you hoped  for.

But he did wrong by you, either lying to you Monday evening or neglecting to tell you Monday morning something very  important, being significantly irresponsible. And  hanging up  on you.. repeatedly. There  is no excuse  for him hanging up on you once!

I don’t think you should contact him. I think you should aim at a relationship because you are lonely and you need to love-and-be-loved (doesn’t everyone). You can have a good relationship, it takes planning, skills, work. It shouldn’t be left to randomness or magic,  it  can be done, and if you want,  I  believe  that  I can help you in that aim, starting  with preparing perhaps a Relationship Resume, nothing  too complicated,  but potentially very helpful.

I will be back to the computer in a bout fourteen hours from now.

anita