Dear talah:

I suppose it is not relevant, it being random.

I understand your current boyfriend’s distress over you seeing your ex boyfriend and if I was in his shoes, I too wouldn’t tolerate you having  contact with your ex boyfriend, given that the ex is not at all neutral toward you and neither are you neutral toward your ex.

I suppose it will need to be your choice, choosing between the  current  and the ex.

When you are  calm you can make a pro list and a con list regarding getting  together with the ex.  List all the  cons and  all the pros you can think of,  those you are  sure about and others that are possibilities or concerns. You can share  these lists here, if  you’d like and I will give you my  input when I am back to the computer  in about fifteen hours from now.

anita